tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-62704322067056826162011-04-21T11:36:22.191-07:00Using EFT to break free of the emotional baggage that drives us. Cluttering, hoarding, overeating, smoking and other compulsive behaviors and addictions can be erased as quickly and easily as wiping a chalkboard clean. Leaving this behind sets you free!Gracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12610929787811953726noreply@blogger.comBlogger141100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6270432206705682616.post-13561250014824106522006-12-24T22:39:00.000-08:002006-12-24T22:52:27.416-08:00

Merry Christmas to all! This year, I got almost no presents and I couldn't be happier about it.Let me explain. I'm a mild hoarder in recovery, from a family that tends to hoard all kinds of things. One of the main reasons that people hoard is because they didn't feel like they got enough love, affection, or attention when they were very young, and this is what caused their void. Since presents,

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Your inner critic (which I think of as "That nasty voice in the back of my head"), is probably one of the loudest voices in your life. Any time you do anything good, i.c's sitting there undermining your victory. Any time you do anything bad, i.c. remembers it for the rest of eternity and throws it in your face.We can take the worst part about IC and make it the best thing about him. Your inner

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You can use EFT to slowly break down the resistance to throwing things away by picking up one thing that you know needs to go but you can't bring yourself to, and asking yourself why over and over again, and tapping on the answers that pop into your head.For instance, you can take an expired coupon from a paper pile, or something small and without a lot of charge to it, and hold it in your hand.

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The fastest way to clear a clutter problem is not always the easiest way in the sort run, but in the long run it's so much simpler.What you do is you find the root issues, the ones that hurt the most, and you tap on them. Any phrase that sends you into a flat-out panic the instant it pops into your head is PROBABLY a root issue.Ask yourself why you collect things. Why you want things. Why you

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When I first learned about EFT I thought it was the goofiest thing I had ever seen. For one thing, I thought affirmations were stupid (my actual language is a bit coarser about the subject of affirmations), and I was supposed to say these weird, scripted affirmations when tapping my body all over, including lifting my arm and poking my armpit?You have GOT to be kidding me!EFT is free to try,

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What drives someone to compulsively do anything? Why does someone do something over and over again, even if it makes them miserable and they hate it? Why does someone who genuinely want to change keep doing the things that make them miserable?Most people with compulsive behavior are trying to fill some sort of hole in their hearts. They feel as if something vital is missing, and this lack creates

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An interesting article I found...An Evansville man is arrested, his children removed from his custody, after police discover his home is filthy.Police say James Mitchell was arrested on charges of felony child neglect and receiving a stolen gun. Officers were called to Mitchell's home on Savannah Road Sunday night, after someone reported Mitchell had a gun and wouldn't let people out of his

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My parents have recently divorced, after having been married for half of their lives. My father has been moderately to severely depressed for years, and has been in and out of the hospital with a variety of illnesses. He was also hovering around 380 pounds. To make things worse, he'd recently lost his job (along with many others who had been downsized) and was starting to slide back into inertia

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This is a fantastic example of the kind, supportive and gentle approach with EFT that helps so much to release the negative emotions that cause hoarding! What a huge difference from having to be brave and be tough with yourself!********“Patti” stated she resorted to hoarding money just in case she would run out. No matter how big her “pile” was, she never felt there was going to be enough. She

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Oprah has some good tips on overcoming compulsive hoarding, but I disagree with them. All of these tips involve, in some way or another, fighting yourself.Tip number seven is Be Brave, and number eleven is Be Strict With Yourself.Hoarders and people who live in environments ranging from cluttered to squalor tend to be hypercritical of themselves and depressed. The last thing someone who's

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I saw an interesting comment on Smackytravel's blog (which I just found, but is hilarious). The first comment is:i hate flylady. hate hate hate. i hate it so much that i would just get mad when i saw the emails and then not clean my house just to spite her. ">LinkWow, did that strike home! Anyone else feel that?Everyone who's had our sorts of problems has seen or heard of Flylady. Some of us have

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One of the big problems I have found in helping compulsive hoarders with their problems is a huge amount of internal resistance they have.One of the main patterns hoarders tend to have is that of wanting control over their environment. Many hoarders grew up with controlling or abusive parents, or in financial hardship. Any attempt at removing clutter or "helping" someone who is a compulsive

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While everyone sometimes has problems letting go of things, or getting organized, with some people this problem becomes crippling. Even when they have let friends come in and help them clean, they have certain deeply ingrained beliefs, emotions, and patterns of thought that soon push them right back into the same place. Until those emotional patterns are broken, they will keep repeating the same

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